Is he or isn't he...

Is Victor O the same as Victor A?

What a tangled mess he created IF he is the same person.  I lean towards him being the same due to lots of circumstantial evidence.  I'm still looking for the smoking gun.

Victor was married and the father of four children.  One died in her crib from burns after her three year old sister set her on fire.  I can't imagine this and I can't allow my mind to go there.

His youngest child was about two when Victor had an out-of-wedlock child with his girlfriend.   Girlfriend...what else should I call her?

About two years later they had another child together.  He was still married. 

The children and their girlfriend mother appear on the 1920 census WITH Victor, his wife, and children.  Victor's girlfriend is listed as a servant and the two boys are listed as her sons and they each have a different surname.  The surnames are NOT their biological father's surname whether their father is Victor or not.  At least according to all of the official documents I have found.  The surnames from the census never show up again.  I wonder if his wife knew what was going on.  Of course, all of my assumptions about Victor and the girlfriend are just that.  Assumptions.  Not one ounce of proof.

Both boys are in the orphanage in 1930.  I am still unable to locate their mother in that census.  Their father, well, their father is deceased.  He committed suicide about before the youngest boy was one.

Their mother married in 1929 (so why are the boys in the orphanage?) and her name sometimes reflects the boys' biological father's surname as if they married.  It's possible.

The oldest of the two joined the military.  I haven't found the youngest of the two in the 1940 census, yet.

I've only been able to find one obituary for the children from the father's first marriage.  I want to know if they list the second set of boys as siblings.  The one obituary doesn't.

Someday I'm going to find the proof, but it doesn't look like it is going to be today.

Updated:  I found the 'girlfriend' on the 1930 census with her first/second husband.  Her first husband as far as documents show, but he is the second husband IF she married the father of her first two boys.  Anyway, she is living with the new husband and her two boys from him.  She married the new husband in 1929.  Their oldest was born in 1925 and the second oldest in 1929.  Where are her two boys from the first relationship?  In the orphanage.  I am sitting here in disbelief.  

Another update!  I found a record for the oldest boy of the relationship children.  His father is Victor O.  I haven't determined where the A came from yet but at least I know the father is the same.